Every year students trickle into colleges and universities across the country with a new sense of independence, excited to meet new people, get that school pride and eventually, graduate from college. Unfortunately, everyone isn’t on the road towards graduation. Below are ten reasons why a student may be on their way out of college WITHOUT a degree. These are NOT the only reasons or listed in any particular order, but it gives you an idea of why you may be failing in college…
1. You’re girl crazy – Whether you found the love of your life, or you’re trying to get the “Player of the Year” award, your first priority is women. You sneak them into your dorm room or your girlfriend practically lives with you in your apartment. You always dress sharp and attend the social events, even if it interferes with class. You are either sprung, whipped or playing yourself without even realizing it. You don’t go to class or study. On the days you do go to class, you’re daydreaming about your player dilemma or trying to flirt with the cute girl in class. Is this why you came to college?
How to overcome it: Remember, college doesn’t care how charming or handsome you are. If you don’t have the grades or the money, you will not graduate. Although I don’t have the study to prove it, I know for sure that women find you more attractive as a college graduate rather than a college dropout. Plus, the ladies are getting their degrees, are you?
2. You party too much – You don’t just go out sometimes, you don’t miss a party! You are the party! Whether it’s dancing the night away and/or drinking the night away, you LOVE to party. Now there’s nothing wrong with having fun as long as it’s balanced with the scholastics. Partying is a great way to relieve stress and enjoy the social side of college, but when you shut down those Wednesday and Thursday night parties then skip your early morning classes, you have lost focus. When partying affects your study time and classroom performance, you should take a break from the social world.
How to overcome it: Just repeat to yourself, “There will always be another great party.” You are given a great deal of independence in college, but it’s up to you to be responsible. Sacrifice is a part of that responsibility and you will have to sacrifice some parties in order to graduate from college.
3. You don’t attend class or study – You think you have it all under control. The professor doesn’t take roll, the class only has two tests, someone else can tell you what was discussed in class, or you’re smart enough “wing it.” You have convinced yourself that class attendance and studying aren’t necessary to graduate. Unfortunately, chances are, you’re not smarter than the school system. You’re failing because you don’t know the material, you’re not passing your exams and the professor has no idea who you are.
How to overcome it: Understand that attending class and studying is a part of attending college; respect the institution! Attend class, talk to your professor about improving your performance and get on a consistent study schedule. If you are determined not to go to the classes that you’re paying for, maybe you should consider taking online college courses. We know you’re smart, so go to class and prove it! Let it reflect in your homework, classroom performance and your test scores.
4. You like to get high/faded/drunk/twisted-Whatever your poison is, it has control over you. You find situations that make it look more like a part of a social function rather than an addiction. Drinking before a party, popping pills in the morning before class, or smoking weed at your friend’s house. Whatever the situation, you find a way to incorporate drugs or alcohol to avoid reality. Sometimes, you’re bold enough to go to class high. Chances are, you’re no longer in control, closer to serious addiction and further away from graduation. Even if you believe you have control, you are putting your degree at risk as well as your life. This lifestyle could lead to expulsion from school and ineligibility for federal loans and grants. So all of your time and money spent in college will be wasted. You will have to repay a loan for a degree you may never receive.
How to overcome it: Seek professional help and get a new set of friends. College counselors are there to help you overcome your addiction. Avoid people and places that can tempt you to going back to your old ways. Don’t put your degree and life at risk.
5. You are married to your fraternity – Your grades dropped after you pledged and you continue to do worse with the newfound popularity. Representing your frat has become your top priority. Actually, failing in school is the exact opposite of what your frat stands for. You wear your letters every day, attend all chapter meetings, make every step practice, participate in every community service event, beef with anyone who disrespects your frat, but you continue to avoid your school work.
How to overcome it: Incorporate the principles of your frat into your scholastic efforts. The real process begins after you cross, right? Well a big piece of that process is to graduate, not just attend college.
6. You’re involved in every student organization – You’re involved in so many community service projects and student activities that people don’t know when you actually attend class. You give your time, money and effort into everything and everyone, but your own studies. Sometimes you use the organizations to avoid difficult classes. Unfortunately, the failing grades will come and your school won’t care about how many clubs you were a part of, or community projects you led.
How to overcome it: Quit your volunteerism…for now. Until you can responsibly keep your priorities in check, you should put all your effort into class and studying. You may be naturally inclined to helping others, but you’re attending college to gain the knowledge and skills necessary to help others on a larger scale. Help yourself graduate and you will be in a better position to help others.
7. You don’t care – You enjoy the social aspects of college, but for whatever reason, you don’t have a sincere desire to excel in class and graduate. It may be because you don’t think you can graduate. The classes may be intimidating, you may believe the assignments are complicated and the tests are too hard. Do you think you have what it takes to graduate?
How to overcome it: Find your confidence and motivation. You have what it takes to graduate, but you have to believe in yourself. Think about your loved ones who support you, the goals you want to accomplish in life, the difference you can make in other people’s lives. Don’t drop out (You will waste your money) and watch your friends graduate and get good jobs. You have to have internal fortitude to graduate. Now get up and go to class!
8. You think you’re a gangsta – So you’re the only one from your block that went to college. The rest of the guys barely finished high school. While you’re in college, they’re in the streets hustling. You try to play the gangsta role in college, ready to fight, look for trouble at parties, you might even slang a little on the side. You want to make it known that you are the OG on campus which is why campus police are more than obliged to treat you like a gangsta instead of a student. Your gangsta persona overshadows your desire to get your degree. You are on the fast track of getting kicked out of college, arrested and putting your life in danger.
How to overcome it: Understand where you came from and the value of attending college. Let go of that lifestyle and do what’s necessary to graduate. People take on many identities in college, but you have to remember that if you’re smart enough to attend college, you’re smart enough to graduate from college. There is much more in store for you than the life of the streets. Do you want to be a gangsta or a graduate?
9. You are addicted to video games/“other” digital outlets – You have some cool friends that enjoy video games as much as you. Without mom around to ensure you don’t go overboard, you play until your thumbs are numb. You skip class, don’t study, but you know when the next Madden Football game is going to be released! For others, you have become addicted to ummm “other” computer outlets. You spend a lot of time alone and you rarely study or go to class. The hours you should spend studying, you spend on the computer. You’ve become an addict and don’t realize it because there are no physical signs.
How to overcome it: Make it a treat for completing your homework or doing well on a test. Another option is to send your video gaming system home. Yep, I said it! If you can’t make the logical choice to study instead of playing games until the wee hours of the morning, send it home. Out of sight, out of mind. Regarding the “other” internet outlets, acknowledge the problem and damage it’s causing and do what’s necessary to overcome the issue, even if it means professional help. This could be detrimental to your graduation efforts and negatively impact your life goals. It’s not worth your college degree.
10. Your job comes before school – You finally got the position you wanted. Now you have more responsibility, more hours and most importantly, more money. Your subordinates depend on you and you enjoy the leadership role. Now, you’re either skipping classes, or taking fewer classes so you can focus more on your job. On the days you’re not feeling well and you have to choose between the two, you choose work. Your job is your top priority and it reflects in your grades.
How to overcome it: You didn’t attend to college to get a local job. You got the local job to help you graduate from college. Remember, this is not the job you want to do for the rest of your life. Your job should support your college endeavor and not hinder it. Understand and accept the sacrifice that comes with making graduating from college your top priority. Don’t let the small incentives entice you to make school a second priority. You owe it to yourself to get the degree that you’re paying for.
This is not to chastise or to judge. NABMU WANTS YOU TO GRADUATE and if you’re not doing what’s necessary to graduate, we want you to know so you can make the necessary changes. You chart your own course in college and we are here to help you succeed.